Change?

Pastor Jim Kilby • April 2, 2022

"I the Lord do not change." Malachi 3:6a

I was chatting with a man about my age today when he told me he and his wife of 25 years recently decided to divorce. Just yesterday, they sat their children down and gave them the sad news. When I asked if there was any hope for reconciliation, he kind of surprised me with his statement. “Not a chance!” he said. “We just weren’t meant to be married to each other.” He went on to describe how each partner had spent years and years trying to change one another, but the only things that seemed to change were their love and devotion to one another. They were giving up. It was over. No matter how wonderful the early years had been, no matter how incredible the wedding was, or the births of their children, they were quitting. 

 

As I pondered this troubling conversation for most of the day, I was saddened. It seems to me we’re in an age where most vows really mean nothing. “Until death do we part” really just means “I’ll stay with you until you begin to annoy me or until I find something better.” And it’s not just marriages. We also get new “stuff” as soon as it comes out, although the stuff we already has is more than serviceable. And our faith in God, it too can often wain in the presence of just about any diversion. 

 

Now, I’ll be honest, I don’t much like change. Unless it’s for the better, which rarely seems to be the case. But in these areas, I think we DO need a change. We need to change back to who we were just a mere twenty or so years ago. Our waining faith toward God, and our dedication to marriage, family and children, are almost exactly where they were when the Lord sent the prophet Malachi to admonish His people. Sure, it keeps a ministry to troubled youth busy, but it’s not good! I’ve put just part of one verse above, but the whole book could use a good read through in my opinion. 

 

Blessings in Christ,


Pastor Jim Kilby

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