Hot One!

Pastor Jim Kilby • March 18, 2024

When it comes to what attracts the opposite sex, I'd definitely have to say that teens (especially teen boys) are superficial. Of course, they learn most of it from their dads, so I can't say there's not enough blame to pass around. At any rate, no matter how "hot" the girl or guy of your immediate dreams seems to be, if you really want to have peace and joy in your life, you'll need to look deeper than the surface when you're looking for a life-long partner. And I know we've all heard the saying, "beauty is only skin deep," but have you heard this one? "Ugly goes clear to the bone!" I consistently meet teenagers who are madly in love with someone and when I ask, is he/she a Christian, they just as consistently tell me they do not know. My advice: Don't marry anyone who's not a Christ follower and don't date anyone you wouldn't marry!

 

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised." Proverbs 31:30


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