Humble and Gentle?

Pastor Jim Kilby • October 4, 2024

Church can be a miserable place at times. It's not that Jesus is intolerable, but many who claim to be His disciples are! I read a bumper sticker recently that offended me for a moment... but after thinking about it, I almost had to agree. The sticker read, "Dear Jesus, save me from your followers!" So why is it that church folks can be so insufferably negative and judgmental at times? It's as if they've forgotten how great a price was paid for their souls. Or how much sin they were forgiven for. Or maybe they never stopped to realize how much damage they were doing to the weaker brother and sisters with their slanderous behavior. Or maybe it's all of the above. 

 

 "Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love." Ephesians 4:2



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