Preeminent!

Pastor Jim Kilby • May 1, 2023

Who has the honor of holding the most important, the preeminent, relationship in your life? Who is the absolute most important person in your life right this moment? When you wake up in the morning, who is it you most want to talk to or to see? For some, it's a boyfriend or a girlfriend (although that person might be replaced by another in a moment's notice!). For some, it's a mom or a dad... or maybe even a big brother or sister. For most, however, the preeminent relationship in their life is reserved solely for themselves. Most folks are more concerned about "self" than about anything or anyone else. Other relationships, no matter how strong, are often just to appease and get whatever "self" wants. The pursuit of "stuff," no matter how extravagant, is also generally meant to appease "self." This, my friends, is the essence of sin. The opposite, and the desire of your heart should be to put Jesus Christ in the position of most importance. Is that where He is? When Christians use the term "a personal relationship with Jesus Christ," I wonder if they really consider just how "personal" that relationship needs to be. Is He your best friend? Is He the one you want to spend intimate quiet time with? Is it Jesus that you FIRST call when you need a helping hand or an ear to listen? Dear friends, hear me when I say I struggle just like you do. My reminder to myself might help you as well... 

 

"Dear Jesus, I want YOU to be my #1! Help me to put YOU in your proper place in my life and to keep You there minute by minute!"   

 

"'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.'" Mark 12:30




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By Pastor Jim Kilby February 10, 2026
"But everyone else is doing it!" How many times have you heard that line before? How many times have you said it? I get a ton of mail from teens who tell me they know they want to stay "virgins" but they want to know more clearly where the line is when it comes to making out (is that still a term these days? Ha!). I even had someone recently tell me that they know Jesus wants them not to have sex, but since "everyone else is doing it" wouldn't it be okay anyway? Wow! I rarely get thrown for a loop, but that one did it! First of all, everyone else is NOT doing it. Secondly, sexual purity is just that--purity! When something is pure, it is without "impurity." Look at it this way. How much dog manure do you like in your birthday cake? Right! Now, do you want dog manure to be anywhere near your cake? Do you want it "rubbed up against" your cake? If you pick the same answers I picked, then you also understand purity! Treat your body the same way until you are married. "I put this in human terms because you are weak in your natural selves. Just as you used to offer the parts of your body in slavery to impurity and to ever increasing wickedness, so now offer them in slavery to righteousness leading to holiness." Romans 6:19 Pastor Jim Kilby Your donation spreads good news! www.harvestyouth.org/donate
By Pastor Jim Kilby February 9, 2026
It's not only rare, but a total exception to the rule that I use the same Scripture two days in a row. Still, I just cannot get this one out of my mind. From my childhood I have understood the "cup of cold water in my name" Scripture as a treatise on what I was supposed to be doing for those around me. That even if I did simple things like give a glass of cold water to a thirsty person and I did it in the name (or to further the kingdom of) Jesus, then I was doing God's work. I guess I must have heard fifty sermons exert just that. Frankly and honestly, I have either misread or misunderstood this for far too long. Sure, followers of Jesus are supposed to do gracious and thoughtful things in His name, but this Scripture actually says that Jesus will reward those who help me (and you) along that path. It also acknowledges that such a thing might be a rare occurrence--a miracle of God if you will, and NOT a miracle of our doing! "He who receives you receives me, and he who receives me receives the one who sent me. Anyone who receives a prophet because he is a prophet will receive a prophet's reward, and anyone who receives a righteous man because he is a righteous man will receive a righteous man's reward. And if anyone gives even a cup of cold water to one of these little ones because he is my disciple, I tell you the truth, he will certainly not lose his reward." Jesus of Nazareth (Matthew 10:40-42)  Pastor Jim Kilby Your donation spreads good news! www.harvestyouth.org/donate
By Pastor Jim Kilby February 6, 2026
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By Pastor Jim Kilby February 5, 2026
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By Pastor Jim Kilby February 4, 2026
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By Elizabeth Kilby February 4, 2026
Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, 21 to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen. (Ephesians 3:20-21, NIV) Friends, The week before Christmas I felt like my email inbox was mocking me. There were so many open Harvest Helps requests for large amounts of money. I honestly didn’t know what to do. While I didn’t want to let anyone down, I couldn’t commit to any of the needs either. I sent emails to three different women saying, “Funds are low right now, but I am praying for a miracle.” After I sent those emails, I posted the needs on Facebook, prayed that God would work it out… and then I walked away. Friends, God provided. A friend donated the exact amount (to the penny!) to cover multiple bills, and others gave as well—the total just kept rising. When I was able to tell these women that God, through His people, had seen them and provided for them—goodness—that is not something I will forget anytime soon. There were tears. There was prayer. There was hope. Thank you for that! Please be in prayer that we would never be so foolish as to believe any of this happens because of our own doing – but only because He goes before us and does more than we could ask or imagine! CELEBRATIONS!!! Ms J - Rent & utilities help after loss of an infant child. Ms Q - Utilities help after the loss of an infant child. Ms H - Rent help after sudden job loss (and after having just moved out of homelessness) Ms K - Utilities help after disconnect notice. Ms. T – Rent help after health issues. Blessings, Elizabeth Kilby
By Pastor Jim Kilby February 4, 2026
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By Pastor Jim Kilby February 3, 2026
Imagine you turn on the news and watch as the leader of the free world dances down the street in his underwear! Absolutely everyone is shocked! Some cry for immediate impeachment. Others cry "he's insane!" But that's not the weirdest thing. Some seem not only to understand his actions, but 30,000 others join in--actually following him down the city streets! As crazy as it seems, this is only partly fiction! Overcome with the joy that can only come from God, King David danced in the city streets so vigorously, his robe fell off, leaving him dancing in his underwear in front of everyone! How undignified! His own wife seeing him from a window mocked him. To which he said, "I will celebrate before the LORD. I will become even more undignified than this, and I will be humiliated in my own eyes." (2 Samuel 6:21b-22) And yet we find in our day and time, it's simply unacceptable even to speak of God outside of a church or worship center. How far we've slipped from where God would have us is known only to Him. This I know for sure though, I will become even more undignified than this!" Will "political correctness" stop you from dancing for the Lord? "David, wearing a linen ephod, danced before the LORD with all his might, while he and the entire house of Israel brought up the ark of the LORD with shouts and the sound of trumpets. As the ark of the LORD was entering the City of David, Michal daughter of Saul watched from a window. And when she saw King David leaping and dancing before the LORD , she despised him in her heart... When David returned home to bless his household, Michal daughter of Saul came out to meet him and said, 'How the king of Israel has distinguished himself today, disrobing in the sight of the slave girls of his servants as any vulgar fellow would!' David said to Michal, 'It was before the LORD, who chose me rather than your father or anyone from his house when he appointed me ruler over the LORD's people Israel-I will celebrate before the LORD. I will become even more undignified than this, and I will be humiliated in my own eyes. But by these slave girls you spoke of, I will be held in honor.' And Michal daughter of Saul had no children to the day of her death." 2 Samuel 6:14-22  Pastor Jim Kilby Your donation spreads good news! www.harvestyouth.org/donate
By Pastor Jim Kilby February 2, 2026
I've been on a few diets in my life, and most people my age will agree that they work for a while, but they don't help you keep the weight off for long. The problem with diets is that they may help you reduce your calories, or your carbs, but they don't help you change your lifestyle. Subsequently, the majority of dieters immediately return to their before-diet weight, and then they add a few more pounds for good measure. This is similar to the person who "tries religion" for a while, and then returns to their old ways when they don't see (or feel) any real change. Being a Christian is not going on a diet from sin. Becoming a Christian means dying to self completely, allowing the Holy Spirit to permeate everything that is you, and to give you a new life--a totally new life! It means death to sin. I've seen a few bumper stickers that read, "Try Christianity." They might as well be working for the devil, because any Christianity that is simply "tried" is not the real thing--there is no change from the inside out! At best, starting a diet from sin (or trying Christianity) will just make a dead person smell a little better for a while. "In reply Jesus declared, 'I tell you the truth, no one can see the kingdom of God unless he is born again.'" John 3:3  Pastor Jim Kilby Your donation spreads good news! www.harvestyouth.org/donate
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