React or Respond?

Elizabeth Kilby • December 2, 2022

“Listen to this, Job; stop and consider God’s wonders.”
Job 37:14

Friends,



I was recently at a women’s conference, and we were discussing the idea of responding to the Bible. An interesting discussion came up: the difference between respond and react. While the dictionary may not get into the nuances of these words – or at least not in the few levels of definitions I looked up – I think we could all agree they hold different implied meanings.


A reaction is usually immediate, not thought out, maybe not even fully formed. When I think of this word, I think of the phrase “initial reaction” because so often, that is what we mean. What is the first thing that pops into mind? What does my ‘gut’ say? And this is often formed out of feelings or very limited information.


A response is generally more thought out. It goes deeper into the context of what the person is saying. It considers the situation, the implied messages, and is generally not just the first thing that pops into our minds. A response is measured and formulated. We often arrive there by asking questions.


Why does this matter? Well, I was thinking about the women and men we work with. When considering their requests, their needs, and their situations it is EASY to react. It is easy to just look at the surface and make snap judgements. When we respond though, we take the time to dig in a little deeper. We remember these are PEOPLE, created in the image of God, and worth slowing down to consider. 


It is the desire of my heart that I would never be in such a hurry that I would not consider the person and circumstances behind each request and remember that their deepest need is met only in Jesus.


In Christ,

Elizabeth Kilby

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