Self?

Pastor Jim Kilby • April 5, 2024

We are each born with a strong understanding of "me" and "mine." Selfishness is something that nobody has ever had to learn. Catering to "self" is what makes the world tick. Corporations that entertain such a truth become wealthy overnight by giving people what they each feel they "deserve." No doubt we've all heard plenty about "self-esteem," but I would submit to you that anything that builds up "self" is dangerous. What we need to do is forget about self, and seek to serve both God and others. The true meaning of life is not to get all you can get--to die with the most toys! But rather to deny self, pick up your cross and follow Jesus. In stark contrast to a selfish world, Jesus came denying His royal position. He laid what he "deserved" aside to serve both you and me. Frankly, to only be concerned about "self" is the epitome of evil--such is the task of demons, not Christ followers.

 

"What do you want with us, Jesus of Nazareth [the demons asked]? Have you come to destroy us?" Mark 1:24a 



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