True Love

Pastor Jim Kilby • February 14, 2023

In Honor of Valentine's Day...

 

Sometime ago I heard an older gentleman on a Christian radio show talk about how he prays for his wife. He said that, even when things were difficult in his marriage, he has prayed Ephesians 5:25 every day for the last 25 years. He does it something like this... "Father help me to love my wife just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her." Friends, that is true love! It's not that warm and squishy feeling you get when you're around someone you really like. It's dedication and sacrifice--no matter what! Whether the recipient deserves it or not, and even if it costs you everything. 

 

Not unlike when our heavenly Father sent His Son to die on the cross for our sins.

 

"But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners Christ died for us." Romans 5:8

 

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